Shortcuts to Quiet the Mind and Cultivate Connection and Clarity
I’m not gonna sugar coat this
Hearing is noticing a sound. Listening is caring enough about what that sound means.
Listening is the best technique we have to figure out what people want.
There are many choices out there; the internet makes that possible.
People have the freedom to choose, and they often do.
And if you're the type of person, professional, or company to listen as passively as someone hearing you while they're on their phone. You won't be most people's choice.
Active listening is about a commitment to understanding the emotion behind someone's words. It can be scary because you might hear something you've been avoiding. But this is what conscious people do.
3 Daily Habits Of Focused Listeners
1. Distracted listening happens when you are more focused on the inner dialogue in your head than what the other person is saying. The distractions usually show up in the form of assumptions and biases. Such as thinking about what you're going to say next, how you look, or what you think the person should do instead.
Try This: A great way to practice active listening is to determine if what is being said is worth listening to. If so, then it's worth asking generative questions to clearly understand. It's also worth not believing everything you think. If you're still distracted, use imagery to notice thoughts come and go like passing clouds without stealing your attention.
2. Focused listening happens when you're listening without distraction.
Try This: Focused listening might mean that you need to interrupt to get clarification or ask the person a powerful question at the end. Part of good listening is speaking up and clarifying what you are requesting.
3. Fully present listening happens when you engage in focused listening while paying attention to the speaker's words, body language, and energy.
Try This: Reading the room is not a skill that everyone has, but it can be developed. You'll want to take a few deep breaths that bring your attention to your body and out of your mind. As you listen to the other person talking, pay attention to their energy, posture, and choice of words. This subtle technique will help you listen and notice, gaining a well-rounded understanding of the other person.
Now that you know how to listen, you'll know exactly what the other person wants without guessing. When you're generous enough to listen and ask questions, they return that generosity by buying what you make.